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| Tweet Topic Started: Jul 31 2008, 04:34 AM (421 Views) | |
| Foxby | Jul 31 2008, 04:34 AM Post #1 |
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Okay, this is what's been going on for... a long time now. When I was five, my parents divorced. I've been told that Mom asked for the divorce for a long time, but Dad refused. After my mother was told she was going to hell and expelled from the church, they finally divorced when I was five. And I was okay with that, of course; I'm a fairly apathetic and adaptable kid. It was the only thing I never cried about, and up until fifth grade, I was the kid in class that puked and cried every day. I went the school affiliated with the church that kicked my mother out for all of my school years up until third grade (despite the school not knowing how to spell words like "forty" and "ninety," I managed to learn with the help of Mom, and Dad would assign me books filled with math problems to overcome the "retardation" I apparently had, which was actually me not speaking because I had nothing to say. He also taught me to read while I was in pre-K, which I now thank him for; I would read chapter books to the first-graders. Mom was so proud). Then, Mom told me what our family's life dream had been; we all wanted to move to Florida, where my grandparents and uncle lived. Of course, I loved my mother's side of the family more than my father's; it was a time to choose. Naturally, I chose my mother's. Dad agreed to the move and we made plans to move on June 5th. Five minutes before we were ready to leave, the U-Haul already halfway to Florida and my Harry Potter book shut and ready in my backpack, my father's lawyer appeared on our front doorstep. He had gone behind our backs and filed legal action; my mother was not allowed to move with me unless we won a court battle. Now, this is what we were: Homeless, our possessions in a semi in Florida, and... well, betrayed. We lived with my best friend Billy for a month before we settled in a nearby town and I transferred to that school, where I quickly learned to control my eyes and stop the tears, and devised a method to eat without puking, no matter how much I hated the food. Now, I'm horribly picky, and Dad is the world's worst cook; however, I won't get into that. Needless to say, we lost the court date; I was too young to make decisions for myself, and so a Guardian et Liatum was appointed to defend me. She was quick to believe my father's insistence that Mom was manipulating me, and fought against us in court. In most cases, the Guardian et Liatum's decision goes. And so we lived our lives in the new town; due to stress, my grades started to slip as I buried myself in the online world and games in general. My older brother had taught me division and multiplication while I was in first grade; this helped me greatly up until about seventh grade, when I couldn't rely on things I already knew, and had to rather quickly learn... well, how to learn. As soon as I did, my grades went straight back up-- but it was too late. Another court battle was waged; we were not allowed to move because my mother was blamed for my failing grades, and the Guardian et Liatum continued to push against us. During this, my father continued to battle for less child support; he now pays approximately $150 a week while with his current salary he should be paying about $400. It's all money we need; with a little extra money, we could pay off our bills. And of course, every time he takes us to court, we had to pay more lawyer bills. Of course, I was fourteen by then. I can't tell you how many times I heard my friends tell me, "You know you can choose where you want to go when you're twelve, right?" I was the only child in Wisconsin that couldn't; our own lawyer was baffled, and kept telling us about cases he had either been on or heard of where a judge laughed them out of court, telling them that the sixteen-year-old can decide for himself, the twelve-year-old knows where he wants to go, etc. Finally, I quit. I told Dad before the most recent legal battle that if he continued to fight this move, I would no longer acknowledge him; it was true, I hated his home and he forced his ideals upon me, insisting that I enjoy camping and biking with him when those are among two of my most hated activities and I would much rather knock up Michael Jackson. Dad didn't fold; however, the Judge was about to rule in our favor. "I believe your tyranny over your son has gone on long enough," he began, and before he could pass down a sentence-- "Objection!" My Guardian et Liatum, the woman who is meant to protect my rights as a human being while I am legally too young to speak for myself... she objected. It spiraled from there; the move was disallowed one final time so we could "figure out our relationship." Of course, at this point, there was no relationship. Every time Dad had visitation, I would speak nothing to him, to his family-- only to a select few. I locked myself in the room and refused to eat, and slept through every hour he had with me. And the thing is, he didn't care enough to give in. He didn't know me enough to know I wouldn't give in. Then, last fall, my Guardian et Liatum did the only thing that helped: she ordered that my parents and I go see a court-appointed psychiatrist; she would evaluate us, collect information, that kind of thing. This cost $1,000 per side. $2,000 that I thought would never help me. Then, finally, several weeks ago, the results came back. The psychiatrist saw I was not manipulated, not hypnotized, and not mentally handicapped in any way. She saw that I would not break, and that if he continued to force me to stay at his house, our relationship would never be mended. And the Guardian et Liatum agreed. We currently have my father in a "you lose big or you lose small" situation; with the Guardian et Liatum, the psychiatrist, and of course, the child in question on our side, we stand no chance of losing. We have offered a proposal; he gets Spring Break with me, my family moves to Florida, he pays half the child support he's supposed to (as opposed to the current... third or fourth). If he refuses, we take him to court, and he pays all the child support he owes me, might never see me again... well, let's just say the proposition is his best bet. Now the really sick and twisted thing is, the uncle that lived in Florida is the one that died on the cruise a few months back. Imagine if we'd got that psychiatrist's report sooner! |
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| L Lawliet | Jul 31 2008, 06:28 AM Post #2 |
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Apparently more annoying than Foxby. o.o
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Dude...I'm so sorry you've had to go through all that...I feel like a jerk now...whining about my problems when someone has it much, much worse...I'm sorry... |
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| Anya Nippon | Jul 31 2008, 08:12 AM Post #3 |
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Never been in a court in my life.... Im sorry foxby, Really sorry, And i hope your dad Is stubbron enough to lose big so you get Compensated |
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| Hannah | Jul 31 2008, 09:25 AM Post #4 |
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Oh bobby. *hugs tight tight tight* I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that. That is rough. I'm glad things are going to be working out for you though! |
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| Kappy | Jul 31 2008, 09:32 AM Post #5 |
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LOL!
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Damn, dude, that's tough. But hey, things are gonna be workin' out for ya, so I'm happy for that! Hopefully everything else goes well for ya. |
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| HAL-9000 | Jul 31 2008, 09:45 AM Post #6 |
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I'm afraid I can't do that.
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Sorry to hear that Foxby, Glad Justice is on your side though! |
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| Volt | Jul 31 2008, 10:11 AM Post #7 |
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Mmm...
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My god man, I'm not sure what to say aside from the normal "I'm sorry" but at least it helps a bit to see that your dad's getting what's coming to him and so far this may actually come to a happy ending >< It's pretty amazing that you actually got through all of that, and you have my full respect. I know I would've breaked sooner or later >< |
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| Silver | Jul 31 2008, 12:07 PM Post #8 |
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I really won't say much besides I'm sorry, but that is tougher than most of the things I've gone through....at least the ones I can remember.. |
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| Zoden | Jul 31 2008, 12:29 PM Post #9 |
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HAT OF HAPPINESS!!!
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Sorry to hear about that. At least it's working out now... Heh... just another example of the stupidity that clouds the eyes of Adults. Gah. What kind of land is this? Is this what they call "Justice"? The president and government feel distant, not close to the people. They ASSUME they know about children they defend, WITHOUT EVER EVEN LISTENING TO THE KIDS. I'm sorry for twisting this into something political but this country disgusts me sometimes. I'm truly sorry you had to go through all of that... |
"Creation happens but once. Destruction and Rebirth are eternal."
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| Foxby | Jul 31 2008, 12:43 PM Post #10 |
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L: S'okay, you've got problems, too. =P And why shouldn't you be able to whine about them if I posted a three-page rant about it? Anya: Never, ever go to court. It's the most horrible thing you could ever do because there's only a one in a million chance that neither side will be crushed financially and/or emotionally. Hannah: Can't... feel... head... need air... x.x But yeah, it's nice to see we're finally winning! Volt: Aha, thanks. To be fair, it's more fun to stay in my room than to go out and do things with him anyways, though. Zoden: Now, now, don't give Joey more anti-US fodder. =P Everyone: Thank you for your sympathy. ^-^;; I could go a lot more in-depth with Dad's craptasticness but then it'd just be a pity party and I try not to make out too many invitations to those. |
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| Zoden | Jul 31 2008, 12:45 PM Post #11 |
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HAT OF HAPPINESS!!!
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Pfft. Joey can be as Anti-US as he wants. Heck, I'm a US citizen and I'M beginning to think I'm anti-US. |
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| Foxby | Aug 8 2008, 11:17 PM Post #12 |
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UPDATE: Dad's a dumbass, taking it to court so he can make sure he doesn't have to pay any child support; it's definitely going to blow up in his face, and he'll have to pay the $400 or so he owes. |
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| HAL-9000 | Aug 9 2008, 12:17 AM Post #13 |
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I'm afraid I can't do that.
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LOL is all I can say. Your dad's a moron, Tell him Joey say's to kiss 400 bucks good bye. |
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| Foxby | Aug 9 2008, 04:16 AM Post #14 |
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Keep in mind that's $400 a WEEK. 8D |
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| HAL-9000 | Aug 9 2008, 04:30 AM Post #15 |
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I'm afraid I can't do that.
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I guess you'll have some extra spending money now XD. So... Wanna buy sum hookas? XD |
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