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Topic Started: Sep 26 2010, 12:15 PM (220 Views)
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Rainbow ♥ Boy
Boy and Girl


Boy: You're so cuteee :D
Girl: You didn't say that yesterday, so you didn't find me cute yesterday?
Boy: But I said, you are so pretty to you yesterday!
Girl: So you don't find me pretty today...
Boy: But I just said you are cute :(
Girl: But that's today, you didn't find me cute yesterday...
Boy: But I love you!
Girl: So you only love me when I'm angry? >:(
Boy: No, I'm just trying to make you feel happy ._.
Girl: So you only say I love you when I'm mad? What about when I'm happy? T^T
Boy: I do..
Girl: You haven't done it in awhile
Boy: But I just did it yesterday..
Girl: I was happy earlier today you didn't say it then T_T
Boy: ...
Girl: You don't love me anymore... All you tell me are lies </3
Boy: But I'm being sincere
Girl: No you are not! You didn't tell me you loved me earlier today when I was happy
Boy: Sigh...

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Martir ka ba?


Note: From the blog of a Luna Online player. More at http://busridediary.blogspot.com

"This is a tribute for the romantic martyrs. For the lack of a better term, you have been branded as such because you are governed by your strong will to please someone while selflessly sacrificing your own immediate happiness. This is dedicated to those who are never reciprocated at times when they truly deserve appreciation, and to those who are insensitively utilized just because they show that they don't expect anything in return.

This is for the people who can withstand mending someone else's heart while breaking their own. This is for the pain you endured while listening to her when she unraveled how perfect her date was while you're establishing a façade to make it appear that you're happy that she's happy but deep inside you're gradually losing hope of being truly happy. This is for the moments when you watched from a distance as she adores one person after the other, completely overlooking your predisposition as a prospect. This is for the time when you unconsciously surrendered to the fact that you can do nothing more than just being a friend. This is for the moments when you felt that you could do something more but she never looked at you in a different light. This is for the time when you wanted to be useful to someone who doesn't need you.

This is for the time when you needed someone to lean to, but all your hints have apparently bounced off her mind. This is for the pain that nobody knew about. This is for the night when your heart felt like it was stabbed and the weakening sensation radiates from your chest down to your toes. This is for the hundreds of times that you've said that you'd take no more, but with just a hint that she needs you, you'll come back to her rescue. This is for the words that you had the guts to say but couldn't say it anyway.

You often worry because you might miss the opportunity of helping her out. You might also be aware that she might be holding back so that she doesn't hurt you much, just to keep you around. You are branded as masochists because people think that you require pain to feel accomplishment, but in reality, pain is just a consequence for a greater goal of keeping someone happy. You often doubt yourself because you do not know what your strengths are anymore. At times you might think back, admiring what you've endured and how other people could've succumbed at the first signs of pain, but a while later, you despise your weakness in not being able to move on.

I genuinely believe that it takes a lot of courage to be adamant with the intent of keeping somebody happy, but it requires a lot more than courage to move on. I also believe that there's a significant amount of reason behind this kind of martyrdom. It might seem foolish at times, but martyrs often think that the person he/she loves is worth it, but in reality, he or she is never really worth it.

For all the things you endure in this world, you are worth far more than just some bitch or jerk who failed to realize how lucky they are to have someone who can put up with their insensitivity. I know that somewhere inside you, you know that you deserve to be treated better. For all the things you can do, you are more than a gift to someone else. Someone who will treat you better. Someone who will share and reciprocate. There are people in this world who will realize your worth.

Happiness is just around the corner. Take your time. Move on. Be happy."

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What Happened to All the Nice Guys?


"I see this question posted with some regularity in the personals section, so I thought I'd take a minute to explain things to the ladies out there that haven't figured it out.

What happened to all the nice guys?

The answer is simple: you did.

See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He'd tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn't feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the (other) guy that you were fucking treated you.

At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for him, and buttressed your position by claiming that you were "just friends." Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.

Eventually, your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you werent dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, "What happened to all the nice guys?"

Well, once again, you did.

You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive "just-a-" friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an asshole than he ever wanted to be.

Fact is, now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. And I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.

So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you do:

1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ass.
3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab ahold of it.

I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you.

If you were five years younger.

So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've fucked yourself over. You're getting older, after all. It's time to excise the bullshit and deal with reality. You didn't want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn't fucking want you, now.

Sincerely,

A Recovering Nice Guy"
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