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| rumbaba | Jan 31 2014, 04:09 PM Post #1 |
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Mobs hasn't been around for a bit. I am guessing she is busy with her father, the news wasn't good - there was some discussion on the poetry thread about what might be read at his funeral. ![]() http://s4.zetaboards.com/Radio4forum/single/?p=8663684&t=8789417 Edited by rumbaba, Jan 31 2014, 04:11 PM.
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| Rikiiboy | Jan 31 2014, 04:42 PM Post #2 |
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Hi all,yes rumbaba Mobson has gone a little quiet,but whatever Mobson,my thoughts are with you too.R. |
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| waiting4atickle | Jan 31 2014, 04:48 PM Post #3 |
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You're probably right, rum. Mobs was in NY last weekend to celebrate her birthday. She wasn't too keen to go, given the situation with her father, but the trip was booked and her mother insisted she went. Has anyone heard anything of Becky? It's quite a few months now since she suddenly disappeared from the board. |
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| rumbaba | Jan 31 2014, 08:48 PM Post #4 |
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Becky is fine, she just gave up message boards. |
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| waiting4atickle | Jan 31 2014, 08:53 PM Post #5 |
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That may well be a wise choice, but how do you know this, rum? |
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| rumbaba | Jan 31 2014, 09:09 PM Post #6 |
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I had a PM from her , she heard I was concerned and contacted me |
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| waiting4atickle | Jan 31 2014, 09:33 PM Post #7 |
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Oh, right. I think we were all concerned, so that's good to know. |
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| rumbaba | Jan 31 2014, 09:56 PM Post #8 |
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Sorry, I should have posted before Tick |
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| May-Cee | Feb 3 2014, 01:55 AM Post #9 |
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I didn't know about Mobs and her concern about her Dad. I truly hope things end happily; and that she's back with us soon! I did see her reference about being in New York. Hope you had a great time, Mobs! |
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| Norm Deplume | Feb 3 2014, 11:24 AM Post #10 |
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Let us know what is happening Mobsy |
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| chocster | Feb 3 2014, 11:25 PM Post #11 |
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My condolences too |
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| waiting4atickle | Feb 4 2014, 10:04 AM Post #12 |
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I don't think we know yet that condolences are in order. Mobs said that her father is dying, but we're all doing that. There's never any telling quite how long it will take - even at the death, as it were. |
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| Norm Deplume | Feb 11 2014, 04:49 PM Post #13 |
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Has anyone heard anything more about Mobson? Not like her to be away for so long without letting us know something or other.. |
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| rumbaba | Feb 11 2014, 07:20 PM Post #14 |
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I emailed her Norm, nothing yet
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| Norm Deplume | Feb 11 2014, 11:26 PM Post #15 |
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I hope she's OK. |
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| Mobson | Feb 11 2014, 11:37 PM Post #16 |
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Hi Norm, hi all ...here I am and yes I am ok. Since I last posted here and returned from NY, things have been very difficult. Basically ensuring that every possible Care package and all ancillary equipment, enabling my father to be nursed at home, has been all consuming. He is still with us, although extremely ill and mightily frail; every day seems to bring yet another challenge...I've certainly learned an awful lot about what is available on the NHS in relation to end of life procedures, involving GP's, DN's and Carers. It certainly is strange to have put my life on a kind of hold whilst my father's comes to an end. My mother, who will be 89 next month, has been incredible whilst also needing a certain amount of assistance...in this respect a nearby neighbour, who I have renamed St Joan, has been truly wonderful...now in her 80th year, she worked in the elderly care sector for 20 years before nursing her husband until he died of motor neurone disease...and consequently, before I had a care package in place, was indispensable as she came to our aid on a daily basis. Thank you for your messages of concern...I really do appreciate them and of course miss you all...hope you're missing me! Edited by Mobson, Feb 12 2014, 12:04 AM.
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| rumbaba | Feb 11 2014, 11:41 PM Post #17 |
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Hi Mobs, great to see you around, we were a bit concerned
Edited by rumbaba, Feb 12 2014, 09:38 AM.
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| waiting4atickle | Feb 12 2014, 12:17 AM Post #18 |
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Yes, good to hear from you, Mobs. Sounds like you've got your work cut out, but if you ever have the time, maybe you could pass on some of what you've learned - might come in useful with the mother-in-law. Good luck. |
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| Norm Deplume | Feb 12 2014, 11:12 AM Post #19 |
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So relieved to know that you are OK Mobsy, sad about your father though. I pray that he does not suffer unduly. PS. I sent you a personal message regarding your absence. Edited by Norm Deplume, Feb 12 2014, 11:14 AM.
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| Mobson | Feb 12 2014, 12:10 PM Post #20 |
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Morning Norm! ...and I've replied X Good day today...so I've come back to London for a quick visit. Yesterday was chaotic - @ one time there was 1 GP, 2 DN's, 2 Carers, St. Joan, my mother and me - all female - all there for my father - who must be in heaven already!
Edited by Mobson, Feb 12 2014, 12:15 PM.
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| Lurkalot | Feb 13 2014, 07:57 PM Post #21 |
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well your dad is getting plenty of attention although sometime probably wants a bit of peace too. I realise it's not easy for him and those close to him. take care mobson! |
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| Mobson | Mar 11 2014, 09:21 AM Post #22 |
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Hi guys....looking in as I've got a bit of time to...
Edited by Mobson, Mar 11 2014, 09:44 AM.
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| Mobson | Mar 11 2014, 09:39 AM Post #23 |
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...there's not a great deal to say except that I am still kept away from normal life by the needs of my elderly parents...my father is very poorly but stubbornly resists shedding the mortal coil although we have prepared ourselves for the end on more than one occasion in the past two months. Whilst in a bedridden state his body has become extremely emaciated, but his mind is very much intact; he has good days, ok days and very bad days. I've tried to make sure he has everything to make him comfortable, dignified and secure in his last days...he has a smart automated medical bed which now has a mechanical air mattress...he has his own supply of oxygen to prevent the frequent middle of the night call-outs to the emergency services when he has had difficulty breathing...his carers are lovely people, who despite wanting to attend more frequently, come in and see to his needs twice daily while the district nurses visit 3 times a week, backed up by on-call GP's. Tom listens to the radio occasionally - my mother bought him a new Roberts last week and we're waiting for the tv cable people to extend their service into his bedroom, so he can have visual as well as audio stimulation...reading the newspaper is possible on a good day but he tells me he has difficulty concentrating on his books - he's got a Dick Francis & a Len Deighton thriller on the go - so after the doctor from Audiology makes a home visit this week to sort out his temperamental digital hearing aid - I'm going to start reading to him...life goes on but in very precarious way for Tom so we really do take each day at a time... Edited by Mobson, Mar 11 2014, 10:16 AM.
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| Caro | Mar 11 2014, 10:09 AM Post #24 |
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Good to see you hear again, Mobson - we have missed you lots - and to let us know how things are going. What a difficult time for you all. "Comfortable, dignified and secure" sound a good basis for his care and you are obviously doing it very well. Best wishes, Caro. |
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| Mobson | Mar 11 2014, 02:29 PM Post #25 |
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Thank you very much Caro...
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| Mobson | Mar 11 2014, 05:41 PM Post #26 |
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Thanks too, Lurks....when you next look in again that is...
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| Norm Deplume | Mar 11 2014, 07:01 PM Post #27 |
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We oldies do become more and more problematic as we age. I hope your father has more good days than not Mobsy I will say a little prayer for him. It is so nice to have you back among us. |
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| rumbaba | Mar 11 2014, 07:26 PM Post #28 |
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Take care Mobs, you are doing everything you can, Family is very important. |
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| Mobson | Mar 12 2014, 08:00 AM Post #29 |
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Thank you Norm....away from him for a couple of days, I had a call from the carers saying he wasn't having a good day yesterday...having short blackouts and not eating due to stomach pains...one of his main problems is that due to long term catheterisation, he is constantly getting urinary infections which require antibiotics, which in turn make him unwell...neither the GP nor the DN's will/can replace his catheter every 6/8 weeks, so he has to go by ambulance to hospital, either local if it fits in with a regular Tuesday urology clinic or further afield to the general hospital...the whole exercise is a nightmare and extremely debilitating for Tom...unfortunately we (may) have a trip like this to make next week...so a little prayer will be most welcome...a miracle even better...
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| Mobson | Mar 12 2014, 02:34 PM Post #30 |
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Am trying to Rum...and as for family well that depends on whose family it is But yes it is important.
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| waiting4atickle | Mar 14 2014, 01:12 AM Post #31 |
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Look after yourself as well as your father, Mobs - you must be under a lot of strain. We've had our own nightmare recently with Mrs Tickle's mum, who has been in hospital since Christmas. She has a variety of health problems, physical and mental, and it's hard to know where the dividing line is between them. Being in hospital is not doing her any good at all - she's doubtless suffering from nosocomephrenia now - but it looks as if she'll be going into a nursing home next Tuesday. I'm sure her condition will improve once she's there, but by how much remains to be seen. |
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| Mobson | Mar 15 2014, 05:29 PM Post #32 |
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Thanks ticks...I'm trying to hold everything together. Want to say more about your post but forgive me not doing so at the moment as I'm endeavouring to watch some rugby right now... |
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| waiting4atickle | Mar 29 2014, 12:54 AM Post #33 |
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I note you had to take your father to hospital today, Mobs - was that for a catheter replacement? Mrs T's mum didn't get into the nursing home on 18th March afterall, as they had an outbreak of sickness and diarrhoea, so she had to wait another week. That made it exactly 3 months in hospital, and I'm not sure she's going to recover from the effects of that. Mrs T has even hinted at pulling out of our trip to Geneva this weekend, in case her mum shuffles off while we're away - and we're only going for a couple of days. |
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| Mobson | Mar 29 2014, 03:34 AM Post #34 |
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Hi ticks...yes it was...as soon as I arrived in Kent just before lunch, it was on the cards that he couldn't wait till 8th April for his urology app at the local hospital so I called 999 to take him to the general hospital, because he's a stretcher/ambulance case, to have it replaced. Usually it happens in the middle of the night so good to get it sorted during daylight and before the weekend and have him returned home as quickly as possible when the job is done...
Edited by Mobson, Mar 30 2014, 01:08 PM.
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Thanks too, Lurks....when you next look in again that is...
But yes it is important.
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