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Topic Started: Jun 18 2014, 05:08 PM (153 Views)
noahsirry88
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I've been praying asking the LORD to give me wisdom and advice I cant seem to understand why all this has happened to my kids and myself why you can just walk out on the most precious thing in your life to Be a mother is a beautiful blessing from god not a curse not something you take for granted not something you just decide to quit you do not forsaken your family not your kids not your husband.I'm trying to find closure and peace the temptations of the devil are hard to surpass. It breaks my heart my kids my two handsome sons and my beautiful daughter asking me everyday where is mommy, when is mommy coming home and its killing me to see this happens the strength of the Lord is the main thing keeping me sane I don't understand people nowadays Since this happened Saturday morning my whole world has been turned upside down if any of people have any godly advice in what I should do please let me know I went out today and fellowshipped with really godly Christian and I'm glad I did. I really enjoyed it. But it seems when I am alone when I am not occupied it hits me I haven't had a full night sleep since this. Lord Jesus please keep your hand upon my kids and I as we go through this rough path in our lives. :(
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S.T.Ranger
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It's very hard to counsel someone going through what you are going through, Noah, but, in regards to keeping yourself focused on other things while this new development plays out, there is definitely solace and wisdom to be found in the Word of God. Sometimes it is through experiences like these that we do our best growing, and if we can maintain self control and keep our focus on what remains a constant in our lives, your children for example, getting through this can be easier.

One of our primary problems as human beings is simply a self-centered attitude. I still struggle with that on a daily basis. Learning to give of ourselves rather than taking for our own gratification is difficult, but, I believe Scripture shows us that this is the path to blessing and we achieve more in this than we could ever attain to by being self-centered.

So just as a little advice for the present situation, spend time with God in His Word. Fill in the open time you have with time spent with Him, which in my opinion is the best way we have, apart from prayer, in fellowshipping with God. He speaks to us through His Word and this is something that many Christians...don't even know they are missing. But once you whet your appetite for study, believe me, it will grab hold of you and the outcome is usually for the better.

As you do this, as I told you the other day, you will have time to give this the consideration it needs. How we react to situations often hold the power of making things better, or...making things worse. Be patient, make no decisions, and don't let this occupy your mind to the point where it can eat at you. What the future holds right now, well, nobody knows at this point. But, depending on how you react to this and handle it, we can say without question that God can make even this...to be for your good.

And not yours only, but for your children.

I will come back to this in the morning, but for now, there are enough threads on here that something should be of interest to you. Feel free to ask questions on the Christian and Answer board as well.

We're a little slow around here, but glad to have you on board. Just remember that as I said, once you whet your appetite for learning about God, His will, and His heart, it will increase. This is a good thing.

God bless.
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It's heartbreaking to hear about things like this. Trust in God and be the best Dad you can for your kids. If your not getting full nights rest you probably should try to, being tired is not going to help. Sometimes rough paths like this make other parts of our lives seem better. Hang in there, things will work out.
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Tico
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noahsirry88
Jun 18 2014, 05:08 PM
I've been praying asking the LORD to give me wisdom and advice I cant seem to understand why all this has happened to my kids and myself why you can just walk out on the most precious thing in your life to Be a mother is a beautiful blessing from god not a curse not something you take for granted not something you just decide to quit you do not forsaken your family not your kids not your husband.I'm trying to find closure and peace the temptations of the devil are hard to surpass. It breaks my heart my kids my two handsome sons and my beautiful daughter asking me everyday where is mommy, when is mommy coming home and its killing me to see this happens the strength of the Lord is the main thing keeping me sane I don't understand people nowadays Since this happened Saturday morning my whole world has been turned upside down if any of people have any godly advice in what I should do please let me know I went out today and fellowshipped with really godly Christian and I'm glad I did. I really enjoyed it. But it seems when I am alone when I am not occupied it hits me I haven't had a full night sleep since this. Lord Jesus please keep your hand upon my kids and I as we go through this rough path in our lives. :(
I'll probably be the only one to say this but... I am not sorry. She didn't just abandon you.

I am sorry for your kids. Whatever is going on between you... she shouldn't "punish" them.

I am not sorry because you don't just wake up and decide I think I'll leave my family today.

I spoke with a man who said him and his wife did divorce right because his kids were grown. I guess he was trying to justify it. His wife asked for a divorce after 25 years. Do you know what his biggest regret was?... That he did not see the signs and love his wife earlier. He said they both regretted not nurturing their marrriage. He said too much water was under the bridge to save it.

Notice that he said his regret was he didn't see the signs yet they both regret not nurturing their marriage. They knew what was happening and they were both at fault. They judged it as too "difficult" to save.

My point is it is both your faults. I am sure your wife will be back just give her some time.Along with the other suggestions... Figure out where you yourself are struggling and take the time to work on it while she is gone. Start with forgiving her for disappearing. Don’t give your marriage up without a fight...it’s worth it.
Edited by Tico, Jun 19 2014, 06:12 AM.
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S.T.Ranger
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Excellent response.

God bless.
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Thanks
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