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| To hug or not to hug that is the question? | |
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| Tweet Topic Started: Feb 4 2008, 05:38 AM (837 Views) | |
| Mystical | Feb 4 2008, 05:38 AM Post #1 |
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I've heard a lot about the sexual harrassment cases going on in schools lately. It started to make me wonder if we are getting out of hand on this? I'm sure schools have policies for what is appropriate and not appropriate behavior as far as student vs. student and teacher vs. student. Now the question is where is the boundry. I'm going to include two different scenerio's and I want everyone to give their input on what they think is appropriate behavior or acceptable and what they feel isn't . 1.) A Kindergarten teacher is in the playground with her students when one of the children fall from a swing and scrape their knee. They are crying loudly and looking for someone to help them. Should the teacher: A) Walk over to the child and tell them to go to the nurses office for ice and a bandaid? B) Walk over to the child, console them by telling them it's ok and giving them a hug for reassurance while they tell them to go to the nurses office and get a bandaid and some ice? 2.) A teenager is in Gym class and is hurt playing basketball has scraped their knees and is very upset but trying to maintain. Does the Gym teacher: A) Walk over and tell the student to get some ice for that and a bandaid B) Walk over and console the student by hugging them and reassuring them they are ok and telling them to go to to the nurses office for some ice and a bandaid? The reason I'm asking is: If schools have a set policy should it apply to all age groups? Should it be the norm or is it not ok to hug a teenager as opposed to a kindergartener or should no hugging be done for any reason. With all the sexual harrassment going on with teacher/students these days just wanted to hear what everyone thinks is appropriate and what isn't. |
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| Deleted User | Feb 4 2008, 06:05 PM Post #2 |
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Really, neither one should be a problem. When I was young I think many times they actually preferred in a situation like that, that the adult walks the child themselves to the nurses office if possible, or send another person along with them. The only real question is about the hug, and that pretty much comes down to the intentions of the person giving it. The way the world is now, I supposse the teacher is better off not touching the child, but there really shouldn't be anything wrong with it, other than what some rather obvious reasons would be.
When it comes to teens I think it'd be kind of odd if the teacher felt the need to give the student a hug over a scraped knee, and likely for any other physical injury that would normally come about in gym class. Even if the intentions were good, it would simply be an odd reaction to me over that situation.
Well, common sense would be appropriate. Unfortunately that doesn't seem to get used often enough in trying to figure things out from a reasonable standpoint. That being the case "these days" I'd say adults in those types of situations would generally be better off not touching any of their students unless absolutely neccassary. |
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| Max | Mar 18 2009, 04:49 PM Post #3 |
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See-this is interesting. Normally I love hugging and being hugged,but in 4th Grade we had this teacher that had been hurt in a car accident as a teenager and was partly disabled to the extend she could never conceive children. She both hugged AND kissed us every day,often several times a day. I found it disturbing-but what really bothered me was nobody gave a FRAK! Not administration,not my parents.........nobody! All I heard was "she's a sweet lady and she LOVES you!" Ladies,if I hugged and kissed you without permission,would that be acceptable? Would it be acceptable if your 10 year old told you what I just told you? |
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| Wabbit | Aug 5 2009, 10:13 AM Post #4 |
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Primary school I would be disturbed if my daughter didnt get a hug when she needed one, secondary school I would be disturbed if my daughter let someone hug her. |
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| divinejoy789 | Aug 5 2009, 02:55 PM Post #5 |
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Yeah I think there should be an age limit really. Once you get so old you don't need the emotional support so much anymore, especially in the form of a hug. The only question is what the age cutoff would be. It really should be something detailed in the rules, because in the meantime I'm sure a lot of teachers feel like they shouldn't touch the kids at all for fear of being sued, and that's just sad and unfair. Why can't anything be innocent anymore? :( |
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| Wabbit | Aug 5 2009, 06:32 PM Post #6 |
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I'm innocent
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| OoohShiny | Oct 7 2010, 01:48 AM Post #7 |
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I have little kids, just in school. I think the policy is if they get hurt, a quick squeeze (not quite an all out hug) is what the teachers prefer... and not simply for reasons of appropriateness. They do a lot to combat germs, and to prevent kids from wondering if one student is more loved than another. As a teen I had a teacher who hugged. I think by that age the students can determine what is okay for themselves, and they can express that preference. I hope we don't have to make rules about it! |
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| GRAVEYARD HOUND | Jan 27 2011, 09:12 AM Post #8 |
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Who, where, when, and a lot of other questios come up when it comes to hugging, consider the issue of kissing...who where, how "passionate"...etc .
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"While hiding out in Cairo,... I'm a desperate man...Send lawyers, guns, and money,... the shit has hit the fan".(Paraphrase from "LAWYERS, GUNS AND MONEY") "...We die at such a place; some swearing; some dying, some crying for a surgeon; ....some upon their wives left poor behind them; ...some upon the debts they owed; some upon their children rawly left. I am afeared there are few die well that die in battle..." KING HENRY V. ActIV.Scene i | |
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Who, where, when, and a lot of other questios come up when it comes to hugging, consider the issue of kissing...who where, how "passionate"...etc 
2:26 AM Jul 11