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| Michiyo744 | Oct 2 2012, 07:30 PM Post #411 |
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On the S.S. Cool Dude
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'Grats to everyone who's taking someone to Homecoming. I hate going to dances with one person, I have to be with my friends (and their dates if I know them, thankfully I do this year), plus I'm not huge on physical contact and you kind of need that for some dances .__. Plus I'm not really interested in asking any girl/boy/whatever-gender-they-go-by to a dance (: Maybe I'm not old enough or something, but I have to admit, I've never dated anyone or crushed on anyone. I've had a few number of squishes (which is wanting to be in a platonic relationship with a celebrity or someone else) and find MANY people attractive, but I don't want to have any kind of romantic relationship with them at all. I don't have an issue with never having one so far, considering that I prefer to be alone than anything else, but I think I'd like to experience romance maybe once in my lifetime. I should also add that I'm not big on touch or any of the sort, I've freaked out a few times when family so much as attempts to hug me, and most romantic relationships need that apparently so... |
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| spiritomb108 | Oct 2 2012, 07:58 PM Post #412 |
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Bringing THIS baby back
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I didn't go to my homecoming. Not both proms. I had nobody to go with, and didn't want to go. |
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| Gaia | Oct 2 2012, 08:07 PM Post #413 |
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The Embodiment of Earth
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@Michi: It does become an issue to start romance if you don't really like touching other people at all. You don't exactly have to be all over someone, although hugs one in a while are nice... Most people aren't really keen on little-to-no contact relationships. Physical contact is a way of displaying affection, from holding hands, to leaning on someone, ect. That being said, there's not really an age where you begin dating and crushing on people. Usually 13 is about the time when you start maturing to the fact, and start getting interested in the gender of your inclination. Some people don't quite have that same spark, though. It doesn't mean they're immature; they either can't find someone they can conceivably invest affection into, or they just have a different mindset, which is okay. Perhaps you can find romance with someone who feels similarly to you... But if you like keeping to yourself, chances are, they probably would too. There's always the chance where you loosen your apprehension towards physical contact, but if that's who you are, then that's who you are, especially if physical contact with even family members makes you nervous. I'd like to think, though, if you'd like to feel romance, perhaps you'll find it one day. Best of luck to you.
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| JBRam | Oct 2 2012, 08:59 PM Post #414 |
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Don't play with fire, kids.
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I never went to prom... I thought it rather pithy and unimportant. Homecoming? Well, I suppose our college might have had something like that, but again, never went. But to each their own. I would also say that romance can exist without physical contact. In fact, romance that relies solely on the physical is doomed to failure. That doesn't necessarily mean that ignoring the physical is a fool-proof way to a great relationship, but a romance can exist without any physical interactions. And hey, if you feel like you don't really "like" someone in that way, that's fine too. There's no rule that says everyone has to date or get married or have sex or whatnot. Do what feels comfortable for you, and only push your boundaries as far as you're willing to. Don't do something solely because the other person wants you to. |
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| Kumakaori | Oct 2 2012, 09:26 PM Post #415 |
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灰色狼
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Mmn, to each their own, And dont feel any rush to get started, physically or non-physically in any relationship. Again, to each their own. ;). |
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| THEkingroxas | Oct 2 2012, 09:28 PM Post #416 |
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I'm Dante~
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And this is why I love you guys. |
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| Gaia | Oct 2 2012, 09:36 PM Post #417 |
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The Embodiment of Earth
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Because of relationship advice? ![]() ... Probably not, there's probably loads of other reasons~ |
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| THEkingroxas | Oct 3 2012, 12:27 AM Post #418 |
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I'm Dante~
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Because I have adult figures to talk to and get advice from. Also they're Awesome, but that's not really needed to be mentioned. |
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| JBRam | Oct 3 2012, 05:16 AM Post #419 |
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Don't play with fire, kids.
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Excellent advice. There is no rule that says you have to start dating at the age of 13, or when you enter high school, or at some other (usually earlier) arbitrary point in life. I think it's a bit crazy (call me an ol' fart) when I hear 12 or 13 year olds complain about their relationships... I mean, if you're 12, you've got five to six years before even heading to college where you form the basis of who you define yourself for the rest of your life (psychology states that from the age of 18-22, you form and solidify these parts of your ego). What I mean is you don't know who you are or who you'll become, let alone whether you want to spend your life with someone, at least not at the age of 12. And at the end of the day, what is dating for? Dating is used to explore relationships with people to see if they could be a possible lifetime partner. I think a lot of people forget that, and just try to have a "good time." Well, that's a great way to hurt yourself and people you care about. In high school, I made myself a rule: I would never date someone that I would absolutely never consider marrying. I think that saved me a lot of heartbreak, even if it significantly limited the number of people I dated. I even turned down someone because I knew it would never work out. I'm not saying everyone has to follow these guidelines, but they worked out well for me. Now I have a beautiful wife (man I love that girl), a house with a great dog, and a kid on the way in a week or so. If anyone has reached success in relationships, I would say I have. And I started out convinced that I was unlovable, that I'd never find anyone who would want to be with me my whole life. Spoiler Alert: You are not unlovable, no matter who you are. |
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| Minmin-Sama | Oct 3 2012, 05:21 AM Post #420 |
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BUNNY ON DA ROOOOF
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My honey and I have set a tentative year for our Big Day~ 2015. uw u~
All of the this. You'll find your one, true love one day. You just have to believe you will. It may not be today, tomorrow, or in a few years, but you'll find them. c: |
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