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Topic Started: Jun 1 2011, 10:21 PM (25,614 Views)
Lord of Ruin
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As of recent I've been on a bit of a downer when it comes to this. See my Girlfriend and I have been together for 8 months now, as of yesterday, and the limitations I have personally are really starting to wear down. Sadly, unlike her parents, my father hates the idea of me dating....really ever. Honestly though if not for school he'd never let me leave my house normally. This makes time I have with her limited. Soon theres homecoming and I almost feel like crying whenever they announce it, or even when someone asks us if we're going together. I can't go. My dad wont allow it.

The thing thats got me a bit worried is I'm going to have to choose at some point between love and family...
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JBRam
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I had to do that, LoR. In all honesty, it sucks. I wish I could offer some help on the matter.
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Hatsune Candy
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It will only get you hurt and end in hating yet another person. You know you'll lose them, one way or another. It's always gonna end in heartbreak.
This isn't always true, love can end in happiness; I've seen it happen before. It doesn't even matter the details as long as the two are happy in the end, even if the end is getting separated. Looking at my parents, for example, yeah they fight sometimes, but they know to work it out and come to a resolve. You can't truly be in a relationship without fight sometimes, it's just how it is.
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I plan to just live alone in an apartment near the place I work. I don't want to get married for fear that we'll divorce... Or that he'll die. You just can't avoid sadness in a relationship.
Yes, that may be true, but that's no reason to not even try. I heard a quote once that I think fits this very well, "It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all - in which case, you fail by default." If you don't try to find love for fear of losing it, then you've already lost it.
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I know that no dude or girl is going to like me like that.
-ahem- Aren't you forgetting about someone over here? I know we're far apart and all, but is that really any reason to toss aside my feelings like that? You said it yourself, the feeling is mutual. So why ignore it?
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If they did, we'd never talk; I'd never have the courage.
You talk to me, don't you? You shared so much more with me than you have with others, I'd like to think it matters, at least a little.
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If we did get married, I'd tell them I don't want to have kids. Because I DON'T. Then they'll be mad at me for not wanting to har sex or something like that, and they'll leave.
For the record, I can't have kids (nor would I want to). Medical issues, yo. And I just absolutely hate when all people worry about is sex, it's stupid and I could care less. Please don't ever say that again, because it's not true, at all.
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altoguy16499
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Then they'll be mad at me for not wanting to har sex or something like that, and they'll leave.


I'm sorry, but when I saw this, it really irked me. There are no, and i mean NO, guys that you should even THINK about being with if they end up acting like this. Relationships are supposed to be about two people depending on each other. Not about "physical desires." If it ends up being like that, they don't deserve to be in a relationship at all

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You just can't avoid sadness in a relationship.


And then this. Like I said above, the purpose of a relationship is about depending on one another. Sadness is a part of life. What makes a relationship work, is if you can work together, and turn that sadness into happiness.
Edited by altoguy16499, Oct 4 2012, 08:55 AM.
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SnowWolf
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As alto said kero. A relationship requires patience and understanding of eachother kero. It's about not only about depending on eachother, but when a problem arises, you both are able to work something out kero. If there is something behavior-wise that bothers you about the significant other; rather than waiting for it to build up and explode out of proportion to an unnecessary argument, talk to them about it kero. People have ears and mouths kero.

Also, Aero, you're already at a step of being able to help yourself and others help you kero. As you said, you don't feel ready for that commitment kero. Understanding yourself, your fears, your weaknesses, and your strengths is a step towards helping yourself kero. No one is enforcing that you have to be in a relationship when you get into highschool or anywhere kero. Even if the media may push that sort of idea, it is up to YOU, to make that decision for yourself kero. Relationships tend to be stumbled upon, and just happen when you really enjoy and trust someone kero. Overtime I'm sure you'll be able to read and analyze people and go with your gut instinct in trusting them kero.
Edited by SnowWolf, Oct 4 2012, 11:27 AM.
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McDodgerman
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I understand what you're all saying. I don't even know why I bothered to post on here; I knew it would piss some people off about what I had to say. These are just all the things that I've gathered from what I've seen, heard, experienced... It's just burned into my brain.

Not to offend anyone here, but I think that stupid show "Glee" may have shifted my view on love. A lot. :dunno: I'm pretty sure that's where I got the "If I don't want to have sex, the guy will leave me," thing. Damn Glee... >____>#

Anyways. Candy, I knew posting my small rant about love would bother you... It really just is the way I really feel, and I didn't mean to offend you at all. I just wanted to say something, because... I felt like I almost had the right to post. Like I should voice my opinion. But I'm guessing I came off as mostly a whiney teenager? A whiney, naïve teenager who just generalizes love based off of the stupid things she's experienced from the media.

AeroA113 realizes this is becoming centered around her.

I'm just going to leave you all to your discussion...

AeroA113 sinks back into the shadows of VE.
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Hatsune Candy
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Bit of advice for you; don't listen to what the media says, ever.

They're definition of love is a lot different from what is actually true.
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THEkingroxas
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No, it's fine! This is the topic to discuss things, Aero! You definitely don't sound like a whiney teenager. Hell, quite a few of us ARE. Don't worry about it too much, yo!

Anyways, about asking that girl to homecoming... She said yes! But it was SO scary! I originally planned pulling her aside and asking her to homecoming where not a lot of people would see me, but it ended up with me asking in front of the WHOLE orchestra. That's 80+ people out there! It was so awkward. Gosh, my heart was pounding really hard.
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So... apparently Homecoming will not feature a lock-in this year. The one NEXT year will, but you want to know why that sucks?

Girlfriend's a senior :/

I'm pretty sure Homecoming won't be oriented towards couples either... Which kind of sucks. I'm debating not going, mostly because the music choice probably wouldn't suit me.

Maybe we could go on a date or something that night though. She's been filling out college applications for weeks now, and she'll finally be done that weekend~ While we've been spending a lot of time together during school, we've not yet gone on a date, mostly because of that... And while I don't mind, I'd like to spend some time with her aside from during free time at school.
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