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Topic Started: Sep 15 2012, 06:20 PM (14,422 Views)
kaizer33226
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I hate having to rant about this but I honestly hate it when people just go ahead and give shit profit towards character auctions simply because there's no base limit.... Its both disrespectful and downright annoying amongst other things....
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Hatsune Candy
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Well I'd be lying if I said I wasn't at least a little pissed right now. Why shouldn't I be? Everything was gonna perfectly fine until some nosy parent decided to ruin everything. I hate it when parents think they have the authority to dig into their child's personal life without asking, because they don't. It's easy for me to take for granted how lucky I am. My parents respect my privacy (for the most part), I can trust them to not dig for info and just let me give them what I want to give them. And I don't care who you are, nobody should have the right to invade your private life like that. I realized there might be some exceptions to that, but I'm not going into that.

Back to the matter at hand, now that this... nosy parent knows what he shouldn't from digging around and looking at past Skype conversations, things are slowly getting worse. At least the mother understands a little, but something tells me she's not very happy with it either. You see, that's another thing, parents with horrible understanding. I, for one, have excellent understanding, and this isn't just bragging, this is something I've noticed over a long period of time. Even if I don't understand, I at least make a sensible effort to. Something the mother in the situation seems to be doing. The father, however, doesn't appear to give a damn. He's like that typical dictator kinda father that wants things to always go his way and doesn't know what the term compromise means, nor does he care.

This guy is really starting to get on my nerves. If I could do something from way over here, I would not hesitate to do so. Sadly, there is nothing I can do except give what little support I can to the nosy parent's daughter. That's just simply not enough for me, I wanna be able to show the guy that what he thinks is wrong, I wanna show him that he's bitten of more than he could ever chew when he decided to mess with us, and most of all, I want to be able to give out more support than what I can muster right now. All for two reasons; for one, I'm not letting some jerkface ruin the greatest thing that could ever happen to me, and two, this guy reminds way too much of all the other people in my life that I let stand there and hack away at it. Well, I'm not making the same mistake this time, especially when you consider that what's at stake here is something I don't ever want to lose. And I won't, I made a promise and I'm keeping it.

Phew, okay, now that that's outta the bag, please note that anything I said in this post was out of pure anger and shouldn't be take too seriously.
I may be mad, but I have enough sense to not do anything irrational.
Edited by Hatsune Candy, Nov 5 2012, 10:07 AM.
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JBRam
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Don't play with fire, kids.
Parents have a right to snoop. They're just trying to protect their children. Sadly, due to the whole "To Catch a Predator" thing, parents think everyone online is gonna murder or rape their kids. The best thing you can do is be supportive of BOTH the parent and the child. If the parent sees you as trying to undermine their authority, then things can only get worse.
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Fairly sure I've given up.
I honestly don't agree, JB. There is something called being invasive, and this sounds precisely like that.

There is a difference between being protective and downright paranoid.
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JBRam
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Don't play with fire, kids.
In all honesty, if the person is a minor, the parents have a right to invade their privacy. Should they? It depends. My guess is that it started as just checking in, and then they saw something they thought a bit disturbing in their eyes, and probed deeper.

Parents do not exist to make their children's lives more difficult. They exist to protect their kids. Sometimes it means protecting them from themselves. Sometimes the parents are *too* protective. But as of now, I don't know of any American law that prevents a parents from learning any non-medical information about their underage child.

Put yourself in their shoes. If you learned your 13-year-old daughter was dating some "random" guy on the internet, what would you think? As a parent, you would fear for the worst, especially if you didn't have the greatest understanding of what an online forum is. From what I know of the girl's parents, and truly, it isn't much, I can deduce that they are loving, caring individuals who want what's best for their child.

Candy, if this is something you want to hold on to, you need to get to know the parents. Have a face-to-face conversation with them, and explain what's going on. Let them get to know who you are, and let them begin to trust you, just as if you were meeting someone's parents nearby. Until then, they will treat you with the utmost distrust. When they learn you aren't a serial-murderer-rapist-unibomber-jacktheripper, they'll probably ease up a bit.
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I AM looking rather beautiful today.
Honestly JB... you're gonna be one of those cool dads, I just know it.
Candy take JB's advice since he's a daddeh. He knows what he's doing.
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Hatsune Candy
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Alright, just got back from an okay day at school, let's see how good I am in responding to people.
Well, first off, before I say anything else. I did mention not to take me too seriously and that I wouldn't do anything irrational.

JBRam
Nov 5 2012, 10:10 AM
Parents have a right to snoop. They're just trying to protect their children. Sadly, due to the whole "To Catch a Predator" thing, parents think everyone online is gonna murder or rape their kids. The best thing you can do is be supportive of BOTH the parent and the child. If the parent sees you as trying to undermine their authority, then things can only get worse.
Okay, here's the thing, I do realize that at some point in a situation parents gain the right to dig into child's personal life. But, in my eyes, they don't always have that right. From what I gather, the father was snooping in because he didn't like his daughter talking to people on the Internet. First off, it's the Internet, you can't seriously tell me that he shouldn't have expected her to start talking to someone. And second, there's a fine line between being cautious and just plain paranoia, believe me, I know. Whether or not this is crossing that line... I'll let you decide.

JBRam
Nov 5 2012, 12:17 PM

Candy, if this is something you want to hold on to, you need to get to know the parents. Have a face-to-face conversation with them, and explain what's going on. Let them get to know who you are, and let them begin to trust you, just as if you were meeting someone's parents nearby. Until then, they will treat you with the utmost distrust. When they learn you aren't a serial-murderer-rapist-unibomber-jacktheripper, they'll probably ease up a bit.
Skipping the rest of that post for now, I'll get back to you on that. Considering what you said, you clearly know what I'm talking about and you know I can't exactly have a "face to face" conversation, not int he literal sense anyways. But I did think about talking with the guy, I even kinda suggested it; but I can't see it ending well enough that I would want to risk trying. I kinda do anyways, but.... I'm rather uncertain, to say the least.
Edited by Hatsune Candy, Nov 5 2012, 06:54 PM.
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Don't play with fire, kids.
Skype does video.
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Hatsune Candy
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And I don't have a web cam.

Stratch that, I might, but like heck if I know where it went.
Edited by Hatsune Candy, Nov 5 2012, 06:49 PM.
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Hatsune Candy
Nov 5 2012, 06:20 PM
From what I gather, the father was snooping in because he didn't like his daughter talking to people on the Internet. First off, it's the Internet, you can't seriously tell me that he shouldn't have expected her to start talking to someone. And second, there's a fine line between being cautious and just plain paranoia, believe me, I know. Whether or not this is crossing that line... I'll let you decide.
I'll also say... His daughter is still his, "little girl." When I was that age, my parents though that everything online was a serial rapist, and that everything I could possibly find was porn, aside from if I was on YouTube.

Since then, my parents have lightened up considerably as far as that goes... But I can see where he's coming from.

Also for being cautious or paranoid... Parents get really paranoid about their children's safety. And that's something you, or I, will never know until we have children of our own. All sorts of things could have lead up to that sort of response. Past events often cause a parent to mold differently. He's being cautious by being over-cautious... Which is the safest you could be. He's not trying to be the fun parent, he's trying to be the responsible parent, even if he is going a bit overboard. Just something parents do.
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