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+ Bird-E	Mar 27 2006, 06:50 AM
Dedicated member Posts: 420 Group: Elite Member Member #76 Joined: June 25, 2005	This post is somewhat inspired by a post I saw on p2l forums. Whats the deal with MSN? Hardly anyone ever talks, and I rarely have anything to talk about. Most of the time, Im busy doing this or that, but messenger is signed on whenever im on the pc. I'm not sure why I bother, but if I were to guess, I'd say I sign on in the hope of someone having something to talk about, usually when im slacking off or just being lazy and doing nothing. While I dislike needless chatter, I do enjoy worthwhile conversations. I dont mean the kind where its obvious that one of you is trying to make good conversation, but the kind that gradually develops and becomes this really interesting and involving discussion. Such a thing is really rare, at least on my contact list. You do get your fair share of busy bodies too, who just want to know every detail of your life. what are you doing? work. what for? projects. are you keeping something from me? yes, now shut up. Most people respect that i'm usually busy (trying to get some work done), but some people bother you just as much if you're clearly busy, than if you're doing nothing at all. Thats what I find most annoying and those people usually end up blocked too. While messenger is a distraction to me, it would also be distracting not having it on. Why? Well like I said before, I have it on in the hope of someone needing to talk to me or something of the sort. Its kinda a mental thing, where you dont feel 'fulfilled and content' without it on, but you feel just as unfulfilled and uncontent when no one is talking. I cant talk about design, technology, or what have you, 24-7. But I do wish that I had more designer/computer/web savvy people who actually talk, mainly because I like to surround myself with like minded people. I go online and people tend to have their own 'groups'. Usually these people are actually people they know in real life (though most are probably known just online), and its that kind of socialization that I miss out on (partly because no one else is tech/web-savvy). I think I may have unlocked something that strongly influences my laziness. Not feeling 'complete'. Always wanting a good conversation, people to talk to, someone who I can bounce ideas off. Forums are good and all, but most of the time I prefer 'real-time' conversations. I'm not sure if any of you have noticed, but I speak differently in real time than I do on forums, because with forums, you've always got to be on topic, confined by the rules of being 'straight to the point'. You dont pick up on the small details, or what builds someone's character, and such things are considered spam on forums. MSN has really caused me more harm than good. I mean, I've made some good friends, and ive got messenger to thank for that, but ive also had my fair share of arguments and fallouts. The timezone difference also has a lot to do with it. Its not so much because when im online, most people are offline (though that does play a major part in it), but rather, people who live in the same area have more chance of socializing as part of their routine, where as it feels like there's a gap when jumping from country to country. Most of the people I know in real life, that are on my contact list, are blocked. I tend to sign on and off a lot (constantly switching between computers and I dont actually notice it), and I dont want to bother them with the constant alert of a contact coming online. That combined with the strange conversations that can occur, make for awkward situations when you do see that person in real life. It kinda becomes assumed knowledge and it feels wierd. There is no real point to this post, maybe you could all post your experiences and outlook on instant messaging programs.


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